Dating 2 months havent been to his house
Another trap is being in a relationship that you ARE totally happy in, then letting your friend’s “advice” get into your head. One woman who is pretty much happy in her relationship goes out with her girlfriends.
Her relationship isn’t a picture-perfect, fairytale relationship, but there’s no such thing as perfect and overall it is a very good, fulfilling relationship for her.
’ I know he had a painful breakup with his girlfriend before me which I think might be a part of this, so I’m trying to be understanding but I don’t think one thing should have anything to do with the other.
Sometimes I’m okay with how things are, but other times I get really angry, especially when my friends get on my case about it.
I’m not going to take fitness advice from someone who is terrible shape and I would encourage you not to ever listen to dating advice from someone who has never had a good relationship (unless you are looking for a recipe on how NOT to act). I am not advocating abandoning a relationship because it’s not perfect – nothing ever is.
But at the same time, it is a sobering reality to see a relationship for exactly what it is and not what it could be.
I think there are a few traps in this sort of situation.
To a guy, calling a woman his girlfriend is typically a huge pain in the ass and if the woman is making herself so available and so committed when he hasn’t committed to anything, why would he call her his girlfriend?
If a store was giving you free stuff, would you say ‘no please, let me pay you for it’? Now, with that said, that does not necessarily mean that there’s no chance of you becoming his girlfriend.
One is staying in a relationship you are not happy in and haven’t been happy in for a while, but you’re staying in it because of the “potential of what it could be.” Frankly, if you don’t like it the way it is, it probably will not change unless he is motivated to change it.
If it has not been working for you for a while, then your best bet is probably to lay your cards out on the table: “This is the change I need or I need to leave.” You will either get it or your relationship will end – either way, you’re off the fence instead of settling for an unhappy situation.