Dating someone who has a boyfriend
Many times, this confusion doesn't stem from “what are we? ”True, the terms “boyfriend” and “girlfriend” are age-old and synonymous with a committed relationship.But, what term(s) exist for couples tired of high school monikers and want their label to show the “adultness” of the relationship?Sensuality and sexuality are part of our culture, says psychologist Janet Reibstein in the article "Fancying and Flirting With Other People" for "Couple Connection." Acknowledging that people are attractive is simply accepting that we are all sensual beings.Being in a long-term, committed, loving relationship doesn't stop you from finding other people attractive. The ability to admit to being attracted to other people is a sign of an extremely healthy relationship, says psychologist Marie Hartwell-Walker in the article "Husband Was Attracted to a Co-Worker" for "Psych Central." However, do it in a way that brings the excitement that you're feeling outside your relationship back into the very heart of it.It's when an acknowledgement of attractiveness turns into a crush that things could get difficult.You may not be able to stop liking another man, but you can certainly stop it from becoming an issue in your relationship. It's perfectly normal to like someone else when you have a boyfriend.In our mid-to-late 20s, we're bound to fall into more serious relationships.
Here are some reasons why the partner is the upgraded boyfriend: While it may be hard for some guys to even become someone's boyfriend, the partner label takes that initiative a step further.
And this isn't high school serious (“Wow, he gave me his class ring! ), or college serious (“I'm so sad we'll be apart for winter break, but we have spring break to look forward to!
”), but adult serious (“I've already met his siblings and we're having a nice dinner together on Saturday night.”). When we find ourselves in this serious adult relationship, confusion may exist when we have that dreaded DTR, or “define the relationship” talk with our significant other.
This is where the term “partner,” short for life partner, comes in.
Not to diss serious boyfriend/girlfriend couples, but the term “partner” carries with it not only a relevant non-gendered reading, but also its own degree of seriousness and initiative.