Dating subordinate employees

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Jobs, after all, come and go (though one can argue that so do boyfriends…), but the love of your life — well, that usually just comes along once.

Of course, pursuing your boss doesn’t guarantee that he will be interested in pursuing you back.

I’m not the kind of person who would normally even think about dating her boss, and I know it’s not a good idea, but I can’t stop fantasizing about it anyway.

Am I crazy for thinking I could make a relationship with my boss work?

I’m also getting the feeling that he might be interested in me as well.

It’s gotten to the point where he walks into the room and I can feel my face flush and my mouth go dry.

If you have a relationship/dating question I can help answer, you can send me your letters at I work for a very small organization that has one part time and two full time employees.

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But consider this: according to a recent Workplace Options survey, nearly 85% of 18-29 year olds would have a romantic relationship with a co-worker, compared to just over 35% for 30-46 year olds and about 30% of 47-66 year olds.And while there’s risk in confessing the crush — like embarrassment or awkwardness — there’s a good chance that by releasing the secret, it will feel less illicit and will relinquish its power over you. Since you’re friendly outside of the office, I might invite him for a cup of coffee before work and say something like, “I’m sure it’s because we spend so many hours of the day together, but lately I’ve developed feelings for you that are not strictly professional or platonic in nature, and I wanted to let you know because while I have no intention of acting on them, I didn’t want you to get the impression that I do.I love my job, I love our work dynamic and I would never want to do anything to jeopardize either, so until these feelings pass — as I’m sure they will soon — I hope you’ll be patient with me as I work through them.” Professional, to the point, and not terribly sexy — three major points to hit if you what you want is to move on and get over it.Emotional investments can make transitions like that challenging — and all the more so if your work relationship is that of supervisor/subordinate.Bottom line: are you prepared to give up your job for a chance at a relationship with your boss?

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