Jessicas guide to dating on the dark side online
She said “I’ll call you tomorrow to see if you even liked it or not.”The next day, she calls and asks how my interview went.I told her it went well, but that position was very data-heavy, not what I was looking for. Of course you should be actively searching and should be free to accept a job offer if you want to!Is there anything you’d like to see me doing differently? Recruiter made me promise not to accept any job offers A few months ago when I was job hunting, I was contacted by a recruiter, Megan, who explained the position she was working on with me and asked about my experience and job hunt.She asked if I had any other interviews or offers on the table.What makes this situation especially unique is that my supervisor has been bragging about the “glowing” reference she gave to multiple people in the office.She even told one of my peers that the workload may shift because I was about to get a fabulous new job.I’d be furious at myself and Megan for pushing so hard. Sometimes, the name she calls me starts with the same letter or sounds somewhat similar to my actual name (such as Emily or Annie) but sometimes it is wildly different (Rachel or Christine).
I am not interested in applying for this job in particular but wondered what the best way to handle it in general is.
It’s possible that she didn’t think the weaker spots she mentioned would matter much for the job, but the hiring manager considered them a bigger deal.
The idea that she said she didn’t “have full confidence” in your work sounds damning, but it could have been something like, “Of course, she’s still learning to do A and B so I have a lot of oversight on her work in those areas.” Or the hiring manager could have asked how independently you work, and your manager could have said, “I review all her work before it goes out” just because that’s standard practice at your company.
The only other things you could try would be (a) a big conversation with her about it (“Jane, I’ve noticed you almost never call me by my correct name; can you try to remember to call me Cecily? I might go with the latter, so that you don’t have to shoulder the burden of an awkward conversation with someone who has been so dismissive of your reminders already.
But since she’s apparently mangling other names on the reg too (although not as badly as yours), I’m not super hopeful that it’s solvable.