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It’s possible that he’s not going full-throttle after a woman because he’s not sure she’s all that into him. Make it clear you want him to ask you out on a date or be more committed to moving forward in the relationship, and see what happens.
Maybe he thinks you’re giving him as many mixed messages as you feel like you’re receiving. Ask men if they (and/or their fellow man) just need to “man up,” and some of them become somewhat defensive.
It could also be that the guy is just gun shy from past rebuffs.“Yes, men can do a better job,” my buddy Mark says.
“But there are also some who try very hard only to get rejected over and over again from even first dates.” He might be lacking in confidence because the last woman (or women) he went after gave him the cold shoulder—or worse.
Given the choice between two women he is equally attracted to, he will choose the one who is more compatible with him in other ways which I explore below.
Affection Compatibility In general, men love to be touched.
Sure, if a man is ambiguous in his interactions with a woman, it could very well mean that he just needs to grow a pair.
But it also could be all sorts of other reasons—from being clueless to being too smart for his own good and everything in between. So without further ado, here’s some male perspective on what you might call the crisis of the assertive gentleman.“There's a lot of truth to the statement ‘man up,’” Lewis says.
“The bad ones make the news.”From what I can tell, the men who are most skilled in showing interest in women (but not interest) are the guys who are also the ones who are most skilled at keeping them at arm’s length.“I think we spend a lot of wasted time trying to be someone the woman wants,” Charles says, “And lose confidence when it doesn't work.”“Most guys struggle to communicate (worse now with media/texting),” Mark says.”And so the fear seems to be greater.” It can be hard enough to decide to make a move, let alone find the right words to say.And the guys who are most worthy of women’s attention are the guys who are straightforwardly (if sometime awkwardly) asking girls out, only to be declined, however politely. But if I’m reading the men in my life correctly, there’s a sense from them that women need to “women up” a bit themselves—or at least help a brother out, if you know what I mean.The good guys end up not getting enough credit while the bad guys dominate their thoughts. The real “good guys” I know are more than happy to be straightforward and assertive with women they’re into.