Single life vs dating
Challenge him to a game of Pai Gow or Big 2 and he’ll drink you under the table. Also, living with a romantic partner pre-marriage is generally looked down upon, which is another reason why many asians wait until marriage to move out. With a big emphasis on “taking care” of those around you.
For example, at the dinner table, it is a blasphemy to serve yourself food first and immediately start eating. Unfortunately, we are influenced by what we see in the media whether we are conscious of it or not.
Just because someone asks you on a date doesn’t mean that they want to marry you.” For single people overhearing married people talk about their lives, responsibilities and routines, the subjects will either be interesting to them or just plain strange.
“A stereotype that single people place on married people is that they are boring,” Mc Call said.
“Also, I think a lot of single people think that some people are too young to be married.” Ashlyn Sandstrom, a freshman living in Provo studying cosmetology, similarly has heard that when people get married they become less interesting.
She has also heard that once people get married they care only about their relationship with their spouse.
For married students, overhearing single students talk about their dating lives can either bring back memories of their dating days or cause them to want to stop and give single people dating tips because, after all, they’ve been through the “dating game.” Katie Skovran, a married student who recently graduated from BYU in English, recalls times when she overheard single people talk about their dating experiences.
“Sometimes I feel frustrated for them because I used to be analytical about dating and would over read into things when I was single,” Skovran said.
Multiple articles and studies discuss how cultural stereotypes of Asian men may make them less attractive to women of all races, including Asians. On another website, one Asian male expresses: “It’s definitely harder for an Asian male to date a white female than for Asian females to date white males.
Now it falls on you to really try to meet the needs of someone else.” Single BYU students who have friends get married understand that their relationship with their friend will go through some changes.
BYU sophomore Jai Knighton, a dance major, also finds that married people’s outlook on life changes.
“Priorities change and dedication to work and school generally takes over, which leaves behind the social scene of young adults,” he said.
Ogletree prepares his students in his marriage preparation class about the relationship change between single and married friends.